Don’t try to micro Manage yourself

Don't try to micro Manage yourself ( We  already have some who do that for us 🤣)

This buzz comes as a reflection of various buzzes on how we Manage ourselves.

Most of us have worked in big organisations and still are.

I bet there hasn't been a day gone by where you haven't beaten yourself up for the quality of your work. And if you didn't we all have that one manager who knows how to rub the thought in with the satisfaction of him adding the fuel he wanted.

We can't avoid that manager but what we can avoid is beating ourselves up as we try to micro Manage ourselves.

Recently a friend of mine on beBee said " don't beat yourself up". – Cyndi wilkins

We know this but what the mind knows it fails to realise and the heart fails to accept.

I have been more productive when I worked in a more relaxing mood than with stress.

The quality of my work more self-appreciated than if I did my work just for the heck of completing it.

Don't Micromanage yourself.
Know – Understand – Believe – Execute. 
The KUBE Loop gives me the basic principles to guide our work. We need to have this loop dancing around our waist to be active and to achieve.

1. Know

You know what is expected of you. If you don't we have all the tools in the world. Offline and Online to brush ourselves on the work given.

2. Understand

Understand the work given to you. If you ask someone to do that work for you what do you expect them to accomplish. That's brings in understanding. Think like your boss to understand what he expects of you.

3. Believe

We have that inner voice on one side it tells us " Your gonna nail this project" and another one that tells us " Your gonna screw up so bad". When you successfully cross the above 2 stages you become confident. Believe you can accomplish the work and that belief in yourself drowns the other negative voice. You are only person who can make you do things for you. Be it at work or your personal life. Believe in yourself. Believe you can learn. Believe you can grow. Believe you can achieve.


Like I once said by sitting at the driver's seat. It ain't gonna take drive you home. 

Execute your thoughts into actions. Your actions into results. Your results into analyses. Your failures into experiences. Your experiences into lessons for self and others. Your successes into motivations.  


Update your skills and focus on your vision. Remember to love yourself and the work you do.  Even if the balance is uneven.  It should always be more on the loving yourself end.

Only when we love ourself can we love others. Only when we learn, we can teach and only when we give we can receive. These I've learnt are the basic principles of the universe.

Engagements and interactions are one of the best things I love about writing. As my learning journey continues I invite you to join me and share your experiences.

I am not perfect and I will not try to be. Being imperfect expands my opportunities to learn and grow. We must remain self-similar as my Fractal friend Milos quotes:

"We are self-similar fractals. That's why we are beautiful. The more you can define your self-similarity, more you can define yourself." – Milos Djukic

How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a Wholehearted life: loving ourselves. – Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

To read about my beBee journey visit my blog or follow me here as I share my experiences with you.

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About me

I am a brand ambassador on beBee , an ardent reader and during my working hours provide HR Recruitment services to many organisations in the GCC. I love life and live to enjoy every single minute given to me.  I love to write and do so rarely ( Winks)

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"To share to learn" Stay awesome always !

 ðŸ Fatima G. Williams 🐝 Fatima G. Williams
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3 Questions for Finding the Perfect Spouse

A husband and wife are made to share each others’ lives intimately — in ways that no one else should. But how do you find one?

Written by Hope on 23/02/2014
Series: Weekly Devotional
Tags: God, Husband, Jesus, Marriage, Wife
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?.” 2 Corinthians 6:14

God made us to desire human companionship in the form of a husband or wife. A husband and wife are made to share each others’ lives intimately — in ways that no-one else should. In a godly relationship, spouses can improve each other, look out for one another, and build each other up in the Lord.

You might think that God has a perfect spouse planned for you. However, as disappointing as it is, no-one can ever be a perfect spouse; “no one is righteous” (Romans 3:10) or perfect. Only Jesus “committed no sin” (1 Peter 2:22).

So what can you look for in a spouse?

1. Is He or She a Follower of Jesus?
The most important thing to desire in a spouse — and in yourself — is a close relationship with, and submission to, the Lord. Although no one can be perfect like Jesus, we should still try find someone who is Christlike — and we should try to be Christlike ourselves.

2. What Is Your Goal for the Relationship?
What do you want in a marriage: Do you want him or her to make you “happy”? Do you want him or her to meet your needs? Do you just want to physically be with someone?

The role of a spouse is not to “complete” the other or to constantly fulfill the other’s desire to be “happy”. No human can complete another — only God can fulfill our lives. The goal of a marriage — indeed, the goal of your life — should be “for the glory of God” ( Corinthians 10:31).

3. How Is God Leading You?
How do you pray for your future spouse? Do you pray for God’s leading in selecting him or her? God can guide you in everything — and that includes the important question of marriage and to whom.

There is no one way to know if God has led someone to an ideal potential spouse. But when you are walking a Christ-following life and seeking counsel from fellow Christians, you can often tell if furthering your relationship into marriage will help you both continue to lead godly lives.

Pray this week:

If God plans for you to marry, He will protect and guide your future spouse.

Do these principles help you understand what God wants for you? Are you currently in a dating relationship that doesn't meet these requirements? What if you're married and your spouse doesn't meet these principles? Pray! And God will bring you what you need. Ask for prayer over how you should be handling your current relationship.

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