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Give Yourself What You Need

The choices we make determine the sum total of our lives. We all experience events that are out of our control, but our reaction to them is well within our control. In fact, we are the only ones who can choose our reactions.

When bad things happen, we tend to throw ourselves a pity party, and invite everyone we know to attend. We even indirectly invite people we don't know, via the internet, when the festivities reach their peak. The pity party, in and of itself, is to be expected. It's part of the grief process. But, as with all parties, the pity party isn't meant to last a lifetime.

Some things to consider:
People don't like being constantly inundated with negative statements;
People will be sympathetic and empathetic for a finite time;
People expect that you will begin to make choices of change.
I know what you are thinking. You're thinking, that's cold, harsh, mean, and even somewhat cruel. Perhaps, you are even envisioning me as being akin to Meryl Streep in The Devil wears Prada. However,

More things to consider:
Most people don't want to be in the position of an enabler;
Most people do want the best for others;
Most people don't enjoy attending life-long pity parties.
Are your co-workers having lunch without you? Are the people in your circle of friends beginning to avoid you? Taking longer to respond to texts? No one is listening to your diatribes of the unfairness of life and how the world is against you? 

No one will spend an eternity feeling sorry for you; in fact many won't feel sorry for you at all. Sure, they will be compassionate and empathetic, but their support will only last for so long, before they become exhausted. That's when they will begin to migrate away from you, as quickly as they can.

Letting it Go

If it's too much for you to handle, seek professional help. Just because you are overwhelmed by a life event, doesn't mean you are crazy. It means your mental health is more important to you than a stigma attached to the counselor's office. Gaining perspective through talk therapy is a far better alternative than lying in bed at night, staring at the ceiling, participating in negative self-talk. (Disclaimer: Crazy is an ugly word, and should not be applied to anyone with mental health diagnoses.)

Remember that whatever happened is in the past, and you don't live there anymore. You live in the here and now, where every new day is an opportunity to make things different. The rising of the sun heralds in the better not the bitter.

Letting it go; whatever "it" is, is a process. Each person goes through the process in their own way, at their own pace. The point where others become frustrated is when the process stops, and they know it has stopped. They see you lying there in the basement of your soul, refusing to get up and try.

As long as you are trying, people will support you, and help you in whatever you need. But, if you are complaining for the sake of complaining, they will see it as an invitation to a pity party, which they will politely decline, and some will decline in a not so polite manner; and some won't respond at all.

Create goals for creating better. Write them down on paper. Look at them every day. Take action every day to take a step toward accomplishing one of the goals. It has been scientifically proven that crossing an item off a list after completion releases the "feel goods" of our emotional world.

Don't use the internet as a replacement for real life. The internet is filled with pity parties. The more you attend, the more you become comfortable in your own. The more you become comfortable, the less real life interactions that you have with people. We are social creatures by nature. We need real life interaction to feel good and mentally strong. The internet is great for support groups to an extent, but make sure you are getting support, and not attending someone else's pity party.

So, go ahead and feel sorry for yourself, no one else will. Give yourself what you need, and then let it go.
Butterfly Phoenix
 Donna Wood Donna Wood
American Author | Intellectual | Social Theorist. • Butterfly Phoeni

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Why Do We Read the Bible?

You might hear the Bible referred to as “the Word of God,” “Scripture,” or “God’s Word.” But why did God use this book to share His story — and why should you care?

Written by Hope on 09/11/2014
Series: Weekly Devotional
Tags: Bible
“Your Word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.” Psalm 119:105

When you are learning about Jesus Christ and about becoming His follower, Christians will suggest that you read the Bible. You might hear the Bible referred to as “the Word of God,” “Scripture,” or “God’s Word.” But why did God use this book to share His story — and why should you care?

What Is The Bible?
Thousands of years ago, God began revealing His plan to people on Earth. When people responded in “faith” (Genesis 15:6), God led them and taught them His ways. The Bible tells us Who God is, as God “revealed [His plan] to His holy apostles and prophets” (Ephesians 3:5). These plans were written in laws and holy letters. God also inspired His followers to record the great things He did in their lives, and to write about what He’s like. That means the Bible is not one message; it is a collection of God’s messages through much of human history.

The Bible Guides Your Life
God gave these messages to communicate His love and plan to save all people. God’s message changes lives. The Apostle Paul described God’s Scripture as “inspired by God, useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right” (2 Timothy 3:16). Being familiar with the Bible helps you learn to trust God’s Holy Spirit, rather than yourself, so “that you may be thoroughly equipped for every good work” (2 Timothy 3:17) which God calls you to.

Power From God’s Word
Jesus quoted, “‘People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from God’” (Matthew 4:4). Just as our physical bodies gain energy from daily meals, so our spiritual lives gain power from daily intake of God’s Word. God will bring to mind what you’ve read and help you overcome evil in your life. This helps you trust God for the life to come. Learn how to accept Christ so you can have power from His word today.

Pray this week:

That God will reveal His will and help you grow through His Word.

The Bible is God's love letter to you… have you read the words from your Beloved Savior today?

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LEMON – Nature’s Green Cleaning Superhero!

The humble lemon is an awesome fruit and cannot be praised highly enough for its green cleaning properties.


But, first, some general facts about lemon juice.

1.       It is a natural disinfectant, deodorizer and bleach.

2.       It has the highest Vitamin C content of all citrus fruits.

3.        It has been recorded to soothe sunburn, stimulate the immune system, reduce a high temperature, cure jaundice and, if that isn’t enough, counteract the effects of drugs.

4.       It is antibacterial and antiseptic.

5.       Its fragrance is very pleasant.

6.       In the past, the lemon was associated with evil and because it wasn’t round like an orange, it had been deformed by the devil himself.

7.       On the other hand, the Romans thought the lemon had protective powers against evil spirits.


8.       Casanova claimed the lemon to be an aphrodisiac and also could prevent pregnancy.


To sum up, the lemon is a natural, cheap, cleaning and deodorizing product capable of tackling even the most difficult household jobs. It is a biodegradable, eco-friendly product that deserves pride of place in your kitchen. And by the way, it also makes a very refreshing drink and has many culinary uses!


So throw away all those branded cleaners etc in your cupboard and get cracking with lemon. When it comes to cleaning, there is almost nothing it can’t do.

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      1. To improve the washing power of detergents: add 1 cup of lemon juice to your washing cycle. This will help to remove stains and give your clothes a pleasant fragrance.

      2. To treat difficult stains such as from berries (raspberries etc): rub lemon juice into the stains, rinse in warm water and wash as normal.

      3. To bleach white clothing (NOT silk): pour lemon juice onto the stained areas and then dry in sunlight. Repeat if necessary. The stains should soon be bleached away.

      4. To remove fresh ink stains: while the ink is still wet, pour juice onto the stained areas, then wash in cold water with normal detergent.

     5. To remove rust stains: mix lemon juice with salt and rub the stained areas with the mixture. Leave for 2-3 hours and then wash normally.

      6. To remove stains on white clothing (alternative method): mix lemon juice with cream of tartar until you have a smooth paste. Apply the paste to the stain and leave in the sun until the stain has started to lift. Wash normally.

      7. To remove really stubborn stains: mix equal part of lemon juice with white vinegar in a bowl. Soak the stain in the solution for up to about 1 hour. Then wash as normal.

       8. To remove mildew from clothing: make a paste of lemon juice and salt. Rub this into the mildew stain and dry in sunlight. Keep repeating this until the stain has disappeared.

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