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Turning Rejection Into Success Fuel


Turning Rejection Into Success Fuel

No one likes to be rejected. Least of all MLM business builders who work for themselves and live under the constant awareness that MLM success is a front loaded investment of time and energy.

Yet like it or not, rejection is a part of life. In fact, we encounter it almost everywhere… at work, socially, sometimes even within our family, and even sometimes from our cat.

For sure… rejection isn’t fun.

In real life, different people have different tolerances for rejection but sooner or later the natural reaction is to start to minimize those actions that seem to bring it about. It’s easy to overlook the fact that sometimes not doing something we don’t like doing is actually that action that delays our ultimate and higher gratification.

But luckily, there are ways, mostly revolving around the idea of mental toughness and filtering, whereby rejection can become not only ‘no big deal’ but sometimes even empowering.

Rejection is a part of life. People are often afraid of rejection because it points out flaws in themselves. However, if you use rejection as a learning experience, you can use it to better your position.

The biggest question you should try to answer when you encounter rejection is, ‘Why did the person reject me?” Or perhaps more accurately, “Was it really me (the messenger) they were rejecting or was it perhaps only the message itself?”

For people in the MLM industry, we often fail to consider that our message, i.e. our message that our prospect can be successful within our opportunity, might actually be a scary thought to some people.

Why would anybody think something like that?

They might think that way because they don’t think they can change and they’re not comfortable being around somebody who is trying to change.

Another positive aspect of rejection is that it sometimes gives you an indication of what you want or don’t want out of your life…. even though you might not realize it at the time.

Have you ever been on an interview for a job you knew you really weren’t qualified for? Or perhaps you were qualified, but your heart wasn’t in it. This can happen to people who are burnt out with their careers.

When you are rejected in a situation like this, it actually could be a blessing in disguise. If you’re really not qualified and you did get hired, you probably wouldn’t last in the job. Unless of course you were willing to go through a log of extra training.

In a case where you really are burned out in some particular career activity, rejection can tell you it’s time for a change.

Although some rejection can turn out to be something important for you to think about, most rejection should not be taken personally. You just need to develop a tough skin and move on.

For example, any good salespeople knows that their success is just a number’s game. Often in life, you just need to keep on keeping on´. It’s that simple.

Rejection can also help you clarify your values and refocus your plans. For example, social rejection might be a valuable indication that you’re trying to hang out with jerks. Why would anybody in their right mind do that? Why not go find some nice people to associate with?

In business, excessive rejection of your sales efforts might be a sign that you’re in the wrong market. If you are trying to sell cars to people who don’t have licenses, you’re in for a tough sell and are likely to get a lot of rejections. You should usually try to find a ‘hungry market’ for whatever you’re selling.

One valuable perspective on rejection is that it immediately tells you you’ve got a problem to analyze. Focus on the analytical angle rather than the gloating angle. Not everybody like Marilyn Monroe or The Beatles either. Remember that there is always new prospect and friends somewhere over the horizon. Just be sure the problem isn’t really you. And if it is…don’t keep it.  

The core problem, as already alluded to, is usually one that you can avoid by changes in your own attitude and/or modus operandi. It often is just a change in mental attitude via personal growth of some sort and often the change in results is like somebody flipped a switch in a dark room.

In almost any endeavor with big stakes, you’ll find that 5% of the ‘players’ win 95% of the rewards. But how can that be… considering that knowledge and skill is so easy to acquire in today’s world?

The fact is that skill is only one of the components of success. There are other factors too. Attitude also counts for a lot. Winners are convinced they're going to finish first, whereas everyone else just has a feeling of hope.

In any ‘good mlm’ (and I know of at least one), it soon becomes obvious that those who are really successful are not successful because of any particularly huge skill-set they possess but rather because of an almost magical combination of focused, positive expectation and mental habits.

MLM winners find positives to focus on which pull them through the destructive gravity of rejection. True…sometimes there’s a trick or tool or technique of some sort that expedites the winners journey but more often than not the deciding factor is simply something or someone inspirational.

In an MLM company, that positive factor is often simply your adopted vision of the kind of life attainable with the leveraged income that can come from the opportunity. Indeed, the ‘right’ MLM remains a viable route to success for most people.

One author recently wrote a book for which he interviewed a large group of skilled people. Among that group, the 5% who had won awards and recognition and who became the elite few among the larger group, they all agreed that elite performance is at least 90% mental ‘game’.

The point is that only 10% of success in life is skill but 90% is usually what's going on in your mind. This includes how you handle naysayers and rejection.

It doesn't matter what MLM you're doing. You don't have to be a genius to be successful in it MLM. In fact, it’s probably one of the few industries where hard word usually is rewarded. But you do need to master the mental game or your hard work is harder than it needs to be.

You should certainly have made sure that you’re investing your time in a company that’s not ‘here today and gone tomorrow´ and that the company has a program that really brings value to the consumer. In Markethive we call that latter characteristic ‘Customer Centricity’.

Beyond that, your success comes down to how you mentally process your world, the people in it, and what they say to or about you. If you’re getting bad vibes, well…if the shoe fits….wear it. But if the shoe doesn’t fit… nobody can make you wear it.

If this defensive mental conditioning is important, how much time do you spend doing it? For the most part, the condition of your mental garden is your responsibility. You state of mind depends on what you do to maintain it…. although sometimes you’ll find some trash in it that was thrown over the wall while you weren’t looking.

There probably is no perfect mental attitude plan but one thing is for sure: an idle mind is the devil’s workshop and (in most cases) some activity toward meaningful goals is better than no activity at all.

If you’re in MLM, nobody expects you to be perfect. But your upline is entitled to expect you to come to class and open your book. And if you’re lucky, you’ll have a mentor who doesn't mind you asking questions. To them, that’s a sign of hope and that’s why they’re the teacher and you’re the student.

You’ll also find that the busier you are, the harder it is for negatives to get through to you.

Of course you don’t always have a chance to have personal chats with the top achievers in your MLM company. But many world champion MLM leaders have been heard to say that they had the same self-doubts, criticism, and an occasional loss of direction and/or feeling of confusion that their new recruits worry about too.

Nevertheless, action usually trumps inaction. Inaction is usually not the safest thing to do (unless you´re standing in a mine field’). Every day all around the world there are people getting into all kinds of MLMs, i.e. the good ones, the bad ones, and the ugly ones. And they all have people making money.

If you’re lucky to be in the company that many of us in Markethive are enthusiastic about right now, you know that some people still say ‘no’. But a lot also say ‘wow!’, especially when they recognize what Markethive’s Phase 2 and 3 will be, and those are the ones you’re looking for.

If you were given a deck of maple syrup coated playing cards and told that somebody would pay you $100 for every ace you could find in that deck… how fast would you start flipping those cards over to find the four aces you know are in there?

You’d probably start flipping at the speed of light, wouldn’t you?

And you probably wouldn’t worry or think twice about your fingers getting all sticky or somebody thinking you were acting a bit strange, would you?

That’s the attitude you need to have to build a successful Network Marketing business. Be willing to do what most people aren’t willing to do… for a relatively short period of time. The result is that you’ll be able to live the rest of your life the way those others probably can’t.

The great thing about network marketing is that time is always on your side if you don’t give up, if you’re moving forward, and you have positioned yourself in the right company. Under those conditions, rejections become simply another data field that falls neatly into place in the final tabulation of your ultimate fortune.

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The Challenge of Being Assertive – Pt 1


The Challenge of Being Assertive – Pt 1


No More Mr. or Ms. Pushover!

Do you struggle over the need to be more assertive in your relationships versus the fear of an unwanted impact if you voice your wants, needs and opinions? You could have problems being assertive in all areas of your life or in only – such as work or business.

Whatever your problems with assertiveness are, you’ll find help in this series of articles. You'll learn how to quit being a pushover, the difference between being assertive and being aggressive or passive, the meaning of assertiveness, plus you'll learn how to handle with confidence the 'new you' that will emerge, and how to handle the 'fear of flying' (i.e. internal struggles that you may experience developing this new personality trait).

Assertiveness is most definitely a required trait for an entrepreneur. While others are spending their spare time on mindless social media and complaining, you sometimes have to assert yourself when you prefer to spend your time pursuing more constructive goals. These readings will help you do that.

Assertiveness Defined

Assertiveness is the certain air of confidence that you project to others and which is ingrained in your personality. It’s a social skill that’s used to communicate with others that you have rights and are ready and willing to stand up for them.

Many people confuse assertiveness with aggressiveness – but there’s a big difference in the two. An aggressive personality has no regard for the rights of others and will often say and do things to undermine another’s self-confidence. Bullies lack self-confidence in themselves and are aggressive to others so they can make themselves feel better. They build their own self-esteem by crushing that trait in others.

When you display assertive behavior, you do so in a self-assured, forthright manner, but you take care to respect the beliefs and feelings of those you’re communicating with.

You’re said to be assertive when you’re bold and decisive – and in the workplace or any career you choose, that’s a trait which will propel you ahead of others. Another personality is “passive,” which means that you tend to say ‘yes’ to others when you’d rather say ‘no’, or let people say and do things which affect your self-confidence.

Knowing which personality you have can help you get rid of bad habits and attitudes that may be holding you back in all areas of your life. Here are some more traits of the three personality behaviors:

1.Passive – The polar opposite of aggressive and assertive personalities, this type may have an innate need to be valued and liked by others that they go out of the way to be agreeable.

You can be so compliant when dealing with others that you can eventually erode your self-esteem and eradicate your rights. You may think that people will dislike you if you don’t say ‘yes’ to everything they want you to do, but in reality, you’re only making them think less of you.

When you take more of a leadership role in your life, you’ll be standing up for your rights as an individual and that will foster admiration in others. Standing up for yourself may seem foreign at first – especially if you’ve grown up with demanding parents, husband, wife, kids and bosses. Keep in mind that when you keep responding passively to others, you’re actually portraying yourself in a negative light.

2.Aggressive – If you’re an aggressive personality, you likely have trouble communicating with others in a positive manner. You think that you have to be aggressive to get things done. In reality, you’re simply ignoring the feelings of others and undermining their self-esteem.

Aggressive behavior can keep you from getting the positive responses that you want from others. Even if they don’t resent your treatment at first, they will eventually, and the consequences won’t be positive.

Your aggressive behavior can be the facilitator for the other person to respond in either an aggressive or passive way – rather than take an assertive position.

Aggressiveness may be seen as a way to manipulate others to get what you want. When you display aggressive behavior, you’re not communicating clearly with others and the meaning of what you say may be lost in confusion.                         

3.Assertive – An assertive personality takes his or her feelings into consideration – and also, those he’s communicating with. The wishes, rights and needs of his are just as important as others.

Assertive personality types listen to others carefully and respond with care – to express his views, but not tear down and discourage the views of others. He doesn’t take on more than he can handle, and is good at delegating to others and giving them credit for jobs well done.

Mistakes made by an assertive personality type are apologized for and rectified immediately. This type behaves as an equal with others no matter what the socio-economic differences are.

Even assertive types may fall into aggressive or passive roles at some point, but when assertiveness is practiced mindfully, it’s the role that is most accepted and manifested on a daily basis.

Why Be Assertive?

A quote from Shakti Gawain, Assertiveness is not what you do its who you are, sheds a true light on the meaning of ‘assertiveness’. When you’re assertive, you’re building the character which is the hallmark of greatness.

Passive or aggressive behavior is seen as bad or ineffective communication skills, but assertiveness is considered well-adjusted and impressive. There are many more advantages to adopting an assertive personality than a passive or aggressive one.

Everyone has had those moments of passiveness – saying ‘yes’ when we’d really rather say ‘no’ – or letting someone walk over us in business or personal dealings when we should have stood up for our rights. After an ‘episode’ of being passive, we may feel angry and frustrated that we weren’t more assertive.

Aggressiveness may make us feel even worse. When you totally disregard the feelings and rights of others, it makes you out to be a sort of demon who gets his own way regardless of the consequences for others.

Assertiveness is the middle ground we should all strive for. It builds the kind of character that we all want and helps us get ahead in anything we attempt – personal or business.

Here are some other incredible advantages of being assertive in every aspect of your life:

  • Create a good self-image – When you learn the skill of assertiveness and practice it in all you do, you’ll gain the respect of others and you’ll also begin to respect yourself.
  • Less stress and anxiety – Although in the beginning, assertive behavior may seem foreign to you, you’ll find that as time goes on you’ll suffer less anxiety and feel less stress. Even the stress you once felt about saying ‘no’ and expressing your opinions will lessen and you’ll be much more comfortable when asserting yourself.
  • Better time management – Rather than always being involved in things you don’t enjoy, your time will be better spent doing what you love. Assertiveness gives you the control you need to manage your own time because you’ll be able to say ‘no’ with confidence.
  • Make your own decisions – Controlling your own life with assertive actions will foster the self-confidence you need to make decisions in your life. These decisions can spur you on to achievements you never thought possible, both personal and business.
  • High-regard from others – Passivity and aggressiveness won’t gain you high esteem from people in your life. If you’ve lived a passive life up to now, you likely get no respect from others. If you were aggressive, people may avoid having conversations or being with you in any capacity.

It may be difficult to convince yourself that you need to be more assertive – especially if you’ve lived your life so far in a passive or aggressive state of mind. But, becoming more assertive can be the catalyst which puts you in a position to achieve all you want in life.

The remaining chapters in this guide, “Quit Being a Pushover: How to Be More Assertive,” will direct you through the steps of how to be more assertive at work, with family and friends and how to make assertive decisions.

You’ll also learn how to cope with some of the struggles associated in turning your personality around from passive or aggressive to the balanced, assertive personality which will lead you to success.

Main Points To Be Learned From This Section

Do you consider yourself a pushover? Are you easily led by others? Do you cower when others find fault with you? Or, do you manipulate and control others by being aggressive toward them – putting them down and robbing them of their self-esteem?

Passive or aggressive behaviors aren’t considered attractive or envied by others. When a person displays an assertive personality, he or she is usually well thought of by others and considered a leader rather than a follower. Here are some of the main points of what you've read so far:

  • There are three personality types – passive, aggressive and assertive.
  • A passive behavior can rip out your self-esteem and make you vulnerable.
  • An aggressive behavior pattern rips out the self-esteem of others and makes you look like a villain.
  • Assertive behavior can boost your self-esteem and make everyone respect and honor your wishes.
  • Advantages of an assertive personality can permeate every area of your life – personal and business.
  • You’ll create a positive self-image.
  • Enjoy more time to do what you want to do rather than be chained to the wishes and demands of others.
  • Less stress and anxiety are other advantages of being assertive and taking command of your own life.

This guide will present the steps you need to take to become more assertive in your life. Quit letting others rule how you live your life. Become the assertive personality that will set you free.

I hope you've enjoyed this introduction on the topic of assertiveness and why and how you can stop being a pushover. The world needs leaders and leaders are assertive. Therefore there's nothing wrong with be assertive in a reasonable way. In my next installment of this series you'll learn some important aspects of being assertive in the workplace.

In the following sections of this report, you'll enjoy reading:

Assertiveness In The Workplace

Assertiveness With Friends And Family

Making Assertive Decisions

Bumps In The Road To Assertiveness


Art Williams
Case StudyWriter, GoogleMyBusiness Consultant, and Markethive Developer



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Your Mindset Development Guarantees Both Success and Failure

Your Mindset Development Guarantees Both Success & Failure positive mindset and personal development 

"Being an entrepreneur is a Mindset….you have to things as opportunities all the time….Soledad O'Brien

Alright, which one are you going to choose success or failure?  No doubt you desire to generate consistent, predictable and long-term residual income from your home business opportunity or any business you joinedbut the biggest obstacle to achieving success has ironically been yourself.  Okay, get the hell out of your own way, but how do you that?  Well, let’s start at the beginning to make things simple because the simple plans are usually the ones that work the best for all people.  Firstly, do you honestly believe you can succeed online?  If not then, let’s begin with the old grey matter and work our way down.  Yes, success begins six inches between the ears. 

Do you realize that your pattern of thinking or Mindset will determine whether you generate profit or require a George Herbert Walker Bush rescue plan because your pattern of thought was self-destructive and lead to your arrival in the MLM Cemetery?  Hence, success or failure is a completely an internal process that begins with your mindset and then, executed through consistent action.  If, you are unable to formulate in your mind the belief you can succeed and sustain it during times of adversity then, you will succumb to the negative influences of the millions who surrender their dreams of being successful and remain content living as mediocre people.  “Humans are designed to seek comfort and order, and so if they have comfort and order, they tend to plant themselves, even if their comfort is not all that comfortable, even if they see clearly want for something better.” â€• Donald Miller   

Jeffrey Combs, President of Golden mastermind once said, “mediocre people live in their comfort zone, but their comfort zone is their failure zone”.  So, are you afraid to step outside the norm and remain with the millions of people who do the J.O.B for life and die dead broke?  How about living a life, which is cautious, redundant and non-stimulating, which is an example of non-growth and more importantly, an example of failure.  Is that you and if so, why are satisfied with that kind of life.  Success requires growth and the ability to break through barriers and not remain stagnant, which is another form of failure.  Hence, to succeed one’s mindset must grow beyond what it believes are its limits.  The search engine Google is an example of an entity that is always growing and adjusts so as to not become stagnant; otherwise, it will become irrelevant.  Last I checked nobody wants to be known as being irrelevant; otherwise, you acknowledge you serve no useful purpose to others or to yourself.

Are you ready to go beyond your limit and seek the title of not 1st Place, 2nd Place nor 3rd Place, but most improved? Unfortunately, most will choose the life of mediocrity because it's safe and familiar; however, today's digital world with constantly changing technology will severely punish those who fall behind or refuse to adapt.  Well, the economy will actually meet out the discipline and reward those who bring value to the market.  The question remains is your mindset capable of adjusting to the challenges within a global economy that sees people as expendable and corporations as essential to societal, political and economic growth.  If yes, then, I invite you attend our next live workshop and learn how you can achieve online success with our global online community.

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