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Give Yourself What You Need

The choices we make determine the sum total of our lives. We all experience events that are out of our control, but our reaction to them is well within our control. In fact, we are the only ones who can choose our reactions.

When bad things happen, we tend to throw ourselves a pity party, and invite everyone we know to attend. We even indirectly invite people we don't know, via the internet, when the festivities reach their peak. The pity party, in and of itself, is to be expected. It's part of the grief process. But, as with all parties, the pity party isn't meant to last a lifetime.

Some things to consider:
People don't like being constantly inundated with negative statements;
People will be sympathetic and empathetic for a finite time;
People expect that you will begin to make choices of change.
I know what you are thinking. You're thinking, that's cold, harsh, mean, and even somewhat cruel. Perhaps, you are even envisioning me as being akin to Meryl Streep in The Devil wears Prada. However,

More things to consider:
Most people don't want to be in the position of an enabler;
Most people do want the best for others;
Most people don't enjoy attending life-long pity parties.
Are your co-workers having lunch without you? Are the people in your circle of friends beginning to avoid you? Taking longer to respond to texts? No one is listening to your diatribes of the unfairness of life and how the world is against you? 

No one will spend an eternity feeling sorry for you; in fact many won't feel sorry for you at all. Sure, they will be compassionate and empathetic, but their support will only last for so long, before they become exhausted. That's when they will begin to migrate away from you, as quickly as they can.

Letting it Go

If it's too much for you to handle, seek professional help. Just because you are overwhelmed by a life event, doesn't mean you are crazy. It means your mental health is more important to you than a stigma attached to the counselor's office. Gaining perspective through talk therapy is a far better alternative than lying in bed at night, staring at the ceiling, participating in negative self-talk. (Disclaimer: Crazy is an ugly word, and should not be applied to anyone with mental health diagnoses.)

Remember that whatever happened is in the past, and you don't live there anymore. You live in the here and now, where every new day is an opportunity to make things different. The rising of the sun heralds in the better not the bitter.

Letting it go; whatever "it" is, is a process. Each person goes through the process in their own way, at their own pace. The point where others become frustrated is when the process stops, and they know it has stopped. They see you lying there in the basement of your soul, refusing to get up and try.

As long as you are trying, people will support you, and help you in whatever you need. But, if you are complaining for the sake of complaining, they will see it as an invitation to a pity party, which they will politely decline, and some will decline in a not so polite manner; and some won't respond at all.

Create goals for creating better. Write them down on paper. Look at them every day. Take action every day to take a step toward accomplishing one of the goals. It has been scientifically proven that crossing an item off a list after completion releases the "feel goods" of our emotional world.

Don't use the internet as a replacement for real life. The internet is filled with pity parties. The more you attend, the more you become comfortable in your own. The more you become comfortable, the less real life interactions that you have with people. We are social creatures by nature. We need real life interaction to feel good and mentally strong. The internet is great for support groups to an extent, but make sure you are getting support, and not attending someone else's pity party.

So, go ahead and feel sorry for yourself, no one else will. Give yourself what you need, and then let it go.
Butterfly Phoenix
 Donna Wood Donna Wood
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Apple has an official permit to test self-driving cars in California, DMV confirms

Apple CEO Tim CookAP

Kif Leswing 
Apple has received a permit to test autonomous cars in California, the first official confirmation that the maker of the iPhone sees the century-old automobile as a product that's ripe for reinvention and a reflection of its need to find new markets to sustain its growth. 

The California DMV updated its website on Friday, adding Apple's name to 29 other companies testing self-driving vehicles in the state, including Tesla and Google.

The permit is confirmation that Apple has been quietly working on self-driving car technology, something that the company has not previously discussed in public or confirmed beyond an advisory letter to the NHTSA in December. 

The DMV says that any manufacturer of autonomous technologies must apply to the California DMV before it can test a vehicle in autonomous mode on public roads.

"Today, April 14, 2017, California Department of Motor Vehicles issued Apple Inc. an autonomous vehicle test permit. The permit covers three vehicles, all 2015 Lexus RX450h, and six drivers," a DMV spokeswoman told Business Insider. 

Apple declined to comment about whether Apple is currently testing autonomous vehicles on public roads and pointed to a previous statement that it is "investing heavily in machine learning and autonomous systems."

2015 Lexus RX 350 front three quarters
This is the car that Apple listed in its application to test its autonomous platform.Lexus

Silicon Valley and Detroit are engaged in a high-stakes race to develop self-driving cars, with companies like Google, Uber, Ford, Tesla and GM all working on autonomous vehicle technology. Prototype cars, with clunky radars, sensors and cameras rigged on the roofs and the sides, are a common sight on the streets of San Francisco.

And although there are still numerous technological, as well as political and regulatory obstacles to clear before self-driving cars become a widespread product for the masses, analysts believe the market will be worth tens of billions of dollars in the coming years. 

Apple's work in the automotive world is an open secret, but the company has never officially confirmed the existence of a project before Friday. 

"It's going to be Christmas Eve for a while," Apple CEO Tim Cook once said in response to a question about the project.

Apple has what appears to be a mostly separate organization of 1000 employees working on what it calls "Project Titan" in Sunnyvale, California and other satellite offices. Apple has also been linked to a private course in California where secretive companies test self-driving cars. 

Last year, the project hit some snags, though, and Apple was forced to bring on Bob Mansfield, a respected engineer, to cut back the scope of the project and set new goals, according to reporting from Bloomberg. Apple is believed be be primarily working on autonomous software, instead of a full car, but the project is still shrouded in secrecy. 

Apple is expected to assess the progress it has made on self-driving cars at the end of this year, according to Bloomberg. 

Have you seen one of Apple's self-driving cars on the road or know anything about Apple's automotive project? Email the author at kleswing@businessinsider.com.

This is the car that Apple listed in its application to test its autonomous platform.Lexus


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Selfish People Are Unable To Love

It is common to have the ingrained idea that selfish people are narcissistic. We believe that these people only care about themselves, that they value and love each other above all else. However, the reality is quite different:  selfish people have not only difficulty loving others, but also loving themselves.

We understand that a selfish person is one who only cares about himself. It lacks respect and interest for the needs of others, it relates to people primarily because of their usefulness and the benefits they can derive from them.

They establish, therefore, instrumental relationships to cover their needs, without considering the emotional aspect of the people. This can happen, in turn, by the fear of getting too involved in relationships and getting hurt. So, in fact, they are doing it is to flee from love.

The selfish person does not get satisfaction in giving; Your concern is basically what you will receive in return. It may give the impression that all this energy that focuses on itself derives from the self-love it feels. However, all these attitudes imply a great inability to love oneself.

"He sees no more than himself; Judge others according to their usefulness; Is basically unable to love. Does not this prove that worrying about others and about yourself are inevitable alternatives? That would be true if selfishness and self-love were identical, but such an assumption is precisely the fallacy that led to so many erroneous conclusions about our problems. " 
-Erich Fromm-

Selfish people have no self-love
It is common for people to confuse self-love with being selfish. The person who loves himself is far from seeming a selfish person , since there are notorious differences that denote a real concern both with himself and with the people who surround him.

When we immerse ourselves in our own knowledge of ourselves, we begin, in turn, a better understanding of others. Self-knowledge is the only way to be aware of our own limitations,  the lack of self-acceptance, and all the fears underlying our behavior.

"Selfishness and self-love, far from being identical, are really opposites. The selfish individual does not love himself very much, but very little; In fact, he hates himself. Such lack of care and care is nothing more than the expression of his lack of productivity, leaves him empty and frustrated. He necessarily feels unhappy and anxiously anxious to wrest from life the satisfactions he is prevented from obtaining. 
-Erich Fromm-
Love to be able to love
It is fundamental to love yourself first so that you can love others . This fact is primordial and is far from selfishness. Attending and listening to our own needs, giving them the value they deserve, supposes a respect for themselves, essential to learn to love.

Considering our own emotions, expressing and accepting them, makes us more authentic people with ease to relate to us from intimacy and trust, not through the fear of being hurt, which only ends in superficial relationships, where we go Adding layers that prevent us from seeing our own ability to love.

"The idea expressed in the biblical verse 'Love your neighbor as yourself' implies that respect for one's own integrity and oneness, love and self-understanding, can not be separated from the respect, love, and understanding of another individual . Love for oneself is inseparably bound up with love for any other being. " 
-Erich Fromm-

We deceive ourselves by thinking that we love
Just as the person who is selfish is incapable of loving, so it is with the person who has a great concern for others, and dedicates himself completely to those around him, disconnecting from himself. In this way, you think you feel so much love that you are able to give up your needs.

This example is easy to see for overprotective mothers and for those who forget about themselves to pay attention to others, and to be at their disposal for when they need them. They are people who pour themselves into the needs of others as if they were their own.

This way of loving can be confused with very good people, who are willing to give themselves unselfishly, and love their neighbor even more than themselves. This conclusion is equally misleading to the selfish self-love. Both forms of love are a self-deception in which an exaggerated compensation for their inability to love is manifested.

"It is easier to understand selfishness by comparing it with avid concern for others, such as we find in an overprotective mother, for example. Although she consciously finds herself extremely affectionate toward her child, she does have a deeply suppressed hostility to the object of her worries. Her exaggerated care is not due to excessive love for the child, but to the fact that she must compensate for her total inability to love him. " 
-Erich Fromm-
As we can prove in the examples of selfish people and people who do not care about themselves, these are two ways in which there is no love for oneself , so there can be no love for other people.

"From this we deduce that my own person must be an object of my love, just as it is the other person. The affirmation of life, happiness, growth and self-freedom are rooted in one's own capacity for love, that is, care, respect, responsibility and knowledge. If an individual is capable of loving productively, he also loves himself; If you only love others, you can not love at all. " 

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God’s Power in Your Life: The Power To Do God’s Work

No matter who you are or where you are, God can empower you to do His work!

Written by Hope on 25/10/2016
Series: Weekly Devotional
Tags: Power, Holy Spirit, Guidance
God uses Scripture to prepare and equip His people to do every good work.

II Timothy 3:17
What makes you feel powerful? If you have accepted God’s forgiveness and allowed Him to teach you to walk in His ways, now you can show God’s empowerment in your life.

Here are ways you can show His power through your actions:

1. Don’t Depend On Your Own Strength
God’s power is given in His grace; He can work in your weakness. The Apostle Paul worked in the power of God’s guidance only, and is recorded as doing more to help form the early Church than any other Christian. And it was because he depended on God, not on himself. The Lord told him, “My kindness is all you need. My power is strongest when you are weak.” And St Paul added, “So if Christ keeps giving me His power, I will gladly brag about how weak I am (II Corinthians 12:9-10). Are you willing to let God show his power in your weakness?

2. Let God Lead The Way
If you have accepted God’s power, and are ready to do His work, you might be wondering what to do. First, start by praying to God and consult with other believers about finding God’s will before making any decisions.

Here is an example of listening for God’s leading, found in II Samuel chapter 7. Israel’s ancient King David wanted to build a temple to hold the Ark of the Covenant, and at first, the Prophet Nathan approved this project. However, that night, the Lord instructed Nathan to stop King David, for it was not God’s will to have the building at the time. The Lord later allowed David’s son Solomon to construct the Temple.

We too must be careful to listen for God’s leading, and let Him empower us.

3. Understand The Power Of The Holy Spirit
So how will God empower you? The Bible tells us that “God’s Spirit gives us power, love, and self-control” (II Timothy 1:7). The Lord fills His people “with power and His Spirit” (Micah 3:8) whom Jesus promised to send to all those who have accepted Him.

Are you depending on the Holy Spirit for guidance? If so, you can trust the Lord to empower you and guide you in doing His work.

Pray this week:

Dear Lord, allow me to be weak, so Your power can enable me to do Your will! Amen.

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Don’t Keep It To Yourself

Our opening scripture addresses those who
win souls to Christ; they’re destined to shine
as the brightness of the firmament and stars for ever
and ever. This lets you know how important you are
to the Lord, if you’re a soul winner.
Soul winning is God’s number one job, and as His
children, we’re to take the message of salvation to the
nations of the world; it’s our mandate: “And he said
unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the
gospel to every creature” (Mark 16:15). The Gospel
is man’s only hope; it’s God’s power to bring men
out of sin into righteousness, and out of darkness into
His marvellous light. Only through the Gospel can
men receive eternal life and become partakers of the
divine nature.
Through the Gospel, life and immortality have
been brought to light (2 Timothy 1:10). Therefore,
to know the Gospel; to be saved and then keep it to
yourself means you’re not fulfilling the will of God.
You must tell others about Christ and the power of
His Gospel to save them and make them partakers of
Don’t Keep It To Yourself
Psalms 42-44
Romans 3:1-31
Ephesians 4:1-10
Isaiah 48
Dear heavenly Father, I thank
you for making me a true and
dependable minister of the
Gospel, an ambassador of Christ.
I’m effective today in turning
many to righteousness, and from
darkness to light, through the
power of the Holy Spirit that’s at
work in me mightily. I shine as a
star forever, because I’m a soul
winner, in Jesus’ Name. Amen

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