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Never Trust A Manager Who Does These Five Things

Every working person knows that your direct supervisor sets the tone for your relationship with your job.

If your supervisor is cool, it could be a great job for you even if it isn’t your dream job.

If your supervisor is a jerk, it won’t matter how much you like the work on your desk — you’re probably going to hate the job, anyway.

Your manager is the person who can give you pay raises or keep you stuck at your current pay rate. Your manager can fire you or recommend you for a promotion.

The power your manager holds over you, your employment security and your career path makes your direct boss the most important person in your working life for as long as you have your job.

The unequal power relationship between a manager and their subordinate is one of the most dysfunctional features of traditional employment.

It is ridiculous that new supervisors are promoted with little thought, given little to no training and then put in charge of other people, but it happens every day.

It is not  healthy for you to need one person — your manager —  to approve of your every move!

Working people can easily begin to shift their words and actions in order to please (or try to please) their boss — and hurt  themselves in the process.

A person who feels a lot of pressure to keep a difficult boss happy may not even be aware of the degree to which they bend themselves into pretzel shapes to accommodate their manager.

This is a very bad thing to do – but most of us have done it!

Pay attention the  next time you’re having lunch or coffee with your friend and your friend gets a phone call from their boss. The minute your friend starts talking to their boss, their voice changes.

We unconsciously shift our behaviors to match what we think our boss wants to see and hear from us. In the process we give up something very valuable — namely control over our own minds and bodies!

I hope you have a manager who trusts you and whom you can trust. You deserve to work for a manager who doesn’t expect or require you to behave any differently at work than you do anywhere else.

You deserve to work for someone who wants to see the real you at work, not a fake, subservient version of you — but many of us are not that lucky.
One of the biggest problems in the working world is the level of fear in many workplaces.  Employees skulk around trying to stay out of trouble rather than having fun solving thorny problems with other smart people.

That is the way work should be — creative, warm and human! Sadly, it is easier to find fear-based workplaces than healthy, trust-based ones.

If you can’t trust your manager, you can’t grow your flame. You can’t speak with your own voice, for fear that your boss won’t like it.

If you are in that situation, it’s time to start thinking about your next career move.

If you aren’t sure whether or not your manager is trustworthy, here are five unmistakable signs they aren’t.

If your manager complains to you about your fellow employees or higher-up managers, they are not trustworthy. Anyone who will gossip to you will just as easily gossip about you.
If your manager is obsessed with “face time” in the workplace and pays close attention to employees’ arrival and departure times, they are not trustworthy. A manager for whom “face time”  is more important than actual results is a manager mired in fear, and a person in fear cannot be trusted because their fear will make them do things that a confident person would never do — like throw employees under the bus to save themselves.
If your manager is afraid of higher-up managers, they are not trustworthy. My friend Laura worked for a manager like that. Laura’s manager Denise told her “I’m your biggest supporter, Laura. You let me know what you need, and I’ll go the division VP and get it.” That sounded great, but Laura didn’t believe Denise. Laura said “Denise says all the right things but when she’s under pressure, she becomes a different person. She would stab me in the back in a heartbeat to avoid looking bad with the VP — and I know that because she’s done it before!”
If your manager needs to find someone to blame whenever something goes wrong, they are not worthy of your trust. Many managers have this problem. They cannot handle the pressure of being accountable for their department. When something goes wrong, they must find a scapegoat. They yell at the scapegoat or write them up to get rid of the stress they feel over the mishap. No matter how friendly your manager is when he or she is not experiencing stress, you cannot assume that you can trust them when their stress level increases!

If your boss is obsessed with targets and metrics, you cannot trust them. Yardsticks are only one part of a healthy management structure. Managers who care too much about hitting every goal, every day do not have the backbone to lead through trust. That is the only kind of manager worthy of your talents!
If you cannot trust your manager, don’t panic. You don’t have to start a job search tomorrow, but you can begin to think about what you want and need in a job that you aren’t getting now. You can take your time, and launch a stealth job search when you feel ready.

Your muscles will begin growing the moment you turn your attention away from pleasing your undeserving boss and start focusing on pleasing yourself!
Liz Ryan is CEO/founderofHuman Workplace and author ofReinvention Roadmap. Follow her on Twitterand read Forbescolumns.

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While I Kept Partying, My Parents Kept Praying: Part 1

Everyone has to decide for themselves whether they are going to be followers of Christ.

Written by Luis Palau
Tags: Salvation, Testimony
This article was written by Andrew Palau.

Like all people, I had to decide for myself whether or not I was going to be a follower of Jesus Christ. My parents had hoped and prayed that I would make this decision as a child, but I did not. It took 27 years for me to finally decide for myself.

I grew up in a great Christian home. Mom and Dad loved me and were truly gentle parents. We went to a great church. Regardless of the tremendous blessings in my life, I wanted what the world had to offer. Although my father, international evangelist Luis Palau, preached to millions, he had no words that could humanly change my heart.

When I was about 12 or 13 years old, a friend’s older siblings introduced me to stuff that even the wilder kids weren’t doing. As time went on I began building a reputation of being the wildest and craziest kid around. I just loved to party… and drink… and smoke marijuana, which some say is the biggest cash crop in my home state of Oregon.

When my parents learned what I was doing, they couldn’t believe it. They were wise because they sought biblical counsel, and they understood that they could not convince me to live a godly lifestyle. They decided that the only thing they could do was to trust the Lord, model faith in the midst of trying circumstances, and do their best to live lives filled with the joy of the Lord.

It was very convicting as I watched them release me to God. “We love you,” they told me. “We’ve done our best, but we trust the Lord… The Holy Spirit is the One who convicts of sin and unrighteousness.” Dad and Mom kept praying for me; I kept partying.

Is there a loved one in your life who is far from God? Are you asking God how He would have you relate to this person, and relying on Him? What have you learned so far that may help others in this difficult situation?

Or is this a story that you can relate to?

Whatever your situation, talking to someone about what's going on can help

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Bible Terms: Family / The Bible is God’s guide to a healthy family

The Bible is God’s guide to a healthy family

Written by Luis Palau
Tags: Divorce, Family, Relationships
Family. What would we do without it? These basic human relationships between husband and wife, parent and child shape our personalities and script our comedies. Our families love us and they aggravate us—and we them. But this first and most basic unit of society—a husband and wife and the children born to or adopted by them was God’s idea.

The Bible is God’s guide to a healthy family, even as it describes the tragedies of families broken by sin. The Bible also uses the family relationship to illustrate the relationship between God and believers. Since God places enough value on the family to compare it with the relationship He has with His children, it deserves a closer look. Standard family terms such as father, son, children, and marriage are addressed both practically and symbolically in the Bible.

The following 12 terms create a greater understanding of the two-fold plan for the family that God has created, the family of God and our human family.

LOVE
Love conjures up many images and emotions. The word may evoke  the pain of a broken heart. It may remind us of the warmth of a lover’s embrace or the care and companion-ship of a parent, sibling, or friend. In the Bible, the word “love” covers this spectrum of uses and more. God deeply desires a love relationship with each of us; that is why He created us! But sin broke the relationship between God and humans. Love is so much more than an emotion (1 Corinthians 13:4-8), and God personally demonstrated His love for us by pursuing us in spite of our rejection of Him and our sin.

UNITY
God designed us to be part of a community, a family. Each Christian possesses gifts that complement the gifts of other believers. We are far more effective in worship, ministry, and godly living when we combine our gifts for the single purpose of glorifying God (Romans 15:5). When Christians work against one another, defeat is certain. The amazing truth is that we are joined not only with other Christians, but also with God!

The Bible tells us that when we put our faith in Jesus Christ, we are united with God because His Spirit comes to live in us. The apostle Paul used marriage to illustrate this concept: Christians are united with God, just as husbands and wives are united in marriage. Paul calls this unity a “mystery.” We are so deeply and profoundly united to God and to one another that even the inspired writer of Scripture can’t fully understand or explain it.

MARRIAGE
Marriage is God’s beautiful plan for a union between a man and woman who love each other with a spiritual, emotional, and physical commitment that continues to grow throughout the couple’s lifetime. Neither God nor humans have changed since the creation of humans and marriage, so the principles of a godly marriage, as spelled out in Scripture, are completely relevant for today (Matthew 19:5-6).

God designed and ordained marriage as a love relationship so deep and intimate that it is patterned after the relationship of Christ with His church. Since marriage is a living example of the union God desires to have with all people, this design is the foundation for the love-life God intends men and women to experience in their own marriages. The all-consuming, sacrificial love that Jesus has for those who believe in Him is the model for husbands and wives to follow.

FATHER
One of the great tragedies of our generation is the number of children who don’t know their fathers—or the children who have only been hurt by a father. But even those with present and loving fathers know that even the best dad has character flaws. Christians, however, have a Father apart from their human one: God Himself. Our heavenly Father wants us to call him by that very endearment—“Abba, Father.” He’s our tender and compassionate “Daddy,” our provider and protector (Romans 8:15).

God the Father perfectly cares for us, giving us all we need—though we may not understand how He is working. As children of God, we can expect to be disciplined if we err. And we shouldn’t be discouraged when this happens because that discipline shows that God loves us and that we truly belong to Him (Hebrews 12:5-8). Just as good parents teach their children not to do things that will hurt them, so our Father in heaven teaches us what is best for us (Hebrews 12:9-11).

CHILDREN
Today, a common misconception is that all people are born children of God. While each human being is a wonderfully unique creation of God, it is only when we choose to place our faith in Jesus for salvation that we become children of God. Then we are born into His family through the Holy Spirit (John 1:12-13; 3:5).

The Bible also says that God adopts us, mere creations, as His children, giving us full access to His love and riches (Ephesians 1:3-5)! Adoption is costly, and God so desired us that He paid our adoption fee with the very life of His only Son, Jesus. Will He forget, ignore, or abandon us after all that effort? Never! (Romans 8:31-32).

SON
“If you really want to understand someone,” President George W. Bush has said, “you look at his family and where he was raised.” Using this reasoning, what can we learn about Jesus Christ, the Son of God? The Bible says that Jesus is “the image of the invisible God” (Colossians 1:15). This means that the Son is fully God; all of God the Father’s qualities are manifested in Him: love, justice, righteousness, and holiness. God the Son was also fully human—“the Son of Man” (1 Timothy 2:5).

While He was on the earth, He shared our experiences: temptation, hunger, fatigue, pain, and death. Since we belong to God, we now have the privilege of being “sons of God” (Romans 8:14-15). In many cultures, sons are favored and given the best inheritance. As God’s “sons,” we receive a priceless spiritual inheritance and all the blessings that come with it. Women, too, are “sons” of God because, in Christ, each believer holds this privileged standing no matter what their gender.

BROTHERS
Big brothers, baby brothers, blood brothers all imply a relationship characterized by warmth and similarity of character. In the Bible, brother can refer to both natural brothers and “brothers in Christ,” all fellow believers, both male and female. Jesus Christ said that anyone who does the will of God is His brother (and sister and mother) (Matthew 12:50).

Though Jesus is our God, we enter a fraternal, co-heir relationship with Him when we become children of God (Romans 8:17). Although that does not make us equal with Him, Christ is not ashamed to call us His brothers (Hebrews 2:11).

DISCIPLINE
Parents can see when their children are headed the wrong way, and it is their responsibility to steer them in the right direction. The Bible teaches that parents should discipline their children to train them correctly. That training must take into account how God has made that child (Proverbs 22:6) and must not embitter or exasperate him or her (Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21).

Nobody likes to experience the pain, hardship, or disappointment that comes as a consequence of something done wrong. But the Bible is very clear that, although discipline is not something we desire, God’s discipline always comes out of His love for us. Discipline’s purpose is correction (Proverbs 5:23). When we mess up, we have to be shown the right way to go. Rest assured that if God is taking the time to set you straight, He loves you (Revelation 3:19).

DIVORCE
Why does God hate divorce? For the same reason we do. Divorce breaks a covenant made before God (Malachi 2:14). Divorce means that anger, betrayal, emptiness, and loneliness have replaced trust, love, joy, and peace. When God instituted marriage, He never intended to join two people together and then watch them tear their relationship apart a few years (or decades) later (Matthew 19:4-6). God feels His children’s pain; their sin that leads to divorce saddens Him.

Jesus explained that the only reason God allowed divorce in the Old Testament was because of the hardness of people’s hearts—not exactly a flattering reason. He went on to say that anyone who divorces a spouse, except for marital unfaithfulness, and gets remarried commits adultery (Matthew 19:8-9). That’s how seriously God takes the making—and breaking—of the marriage vows (Malachi 2:15-16).

OBEDIENCE
Children need to obey their parents to survive. Obedience is crucial for God’s children, too. Obedience means doing what God says no matter how unpopular, strange, or difficult the command is. Although doing what God says can be difficult at times, God has every right as our Creator to demand our obedience. When we obey Him willingly from a heart that trusts Him, our obedience is a gift of love to Him. The Lord says that this kind of gift means more to Him than any other sacrifice we could make (1 Samuel 15:22).

TRUST
All relationships are built on trust or destroyed by a lack of it—especially within a family. The Bible talks about a husband having full confidence in his wife (Proverbs 31:11) and the importance of a wife being able to trust the faithfulness of her husband (Malachi 2:15). Parents build trust in their children when they nurture them instead of exasperating them (Ephesians 6:4) God alone is completely trustworthy (Psalm 119:160). Anything else in which we trust will fail, whether it’s people, position, money, or ourselves.

We can fully trust God to give us salvation, to provide for our needs, and to be with us. He will follow through on every promise, he has made. Likewise, in our own lives, we need to prove that we are trustworthy. When people can trust us to keep our word, to look out for their best interests, to do what is right, then we will be displaying Christ’s character and the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

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10 KEYS – PROTECTING YOUR MIND FROM SATAN .

LIFE LESSONS FROM THE BOOK OF PROVERB 3:5 (Amp)

" Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding."

10 KEYS – PROTECTING YOUR MIND FROM SATAN .

1.Faith – you cannot survive the enemies attacks on your mind outside the arena of faith as a believer . why? your faith is a shield against the fiery darts of the wicked . Eph 6:16(Amp)" Lift up over all the [covering] shield of  saving faith, upon which you can quench all the flaming missiles of the wicked [one].

2.Speaking in tongues – Edifies your spirit and soul (mind) with God's will and with time, your mind becomes aligned with the will of God . 1 Cor 14:4(Amp)" One who speaks in a tongue edifies himself; but one who prophesies edifies the church [promotes growth in spiritual wisdom, devotion, holiness, and joy]."

3.Effective prayer – Is different from just praying . It means praying with such intensity from your heart , such prayers affects your mind because you desire it strongly. James 5:16b(Amp)" The heartfelt and persistent prayer of a righteous man (believer) can accomplish much [when put into action and made effective by God—it is dynamic and can have tremendous power]."

4.The word of God – Is God Himself and what can possibly shield your mind from the wicked arrows of an enemy you cannot see .2 Cor 10:4(Amp)" The weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood]. Our weapons are divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses." strongholds in the mind .

5.Read good  christian books –  That will edify and develop your mindset .Your mind responds to whatever it perceives through you as true . key – keep junk stuffs out of your mind and look for good magazines , books that will edify your mind to read . Prov 4:23(Amp)" Watch over your heart with all diligence,For from it flow the springs of life."

6.Good communication – guard your mind with good talk . stay away from those with bad language /communication . it affects the mind , what you hear and say . 1 Cor 15:33(Amp)" Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”

7.Encourage yourself always – why? the mind is very vulnerable to attacks from the wicked , when you are discouraged or depressed . Satan takes advantage of you at such moments to fire you with all kinds of negative thoughts . David knew this trick of the enemy so what did he do ? He encouraged Himself in the Lord .1 Sam 30 :6(Amp)" Further, David was greatly distressed because the people spoke of stoning him, for all of them were embittered, each man for his sons and daughters. But David felt strengthened and encouraged in the Lord his God."

8. The truth  –  the word of God in your spirit is your shield and buckler .it will cut away any negative thought from your mind.Let your mind dwell on the truth always .(2 John 1:2) Heb 4:12(Amp)" For the word of God is living and active and full of power [making it operative, energizing, and effective]. It is sharper than any two-edged [a]sword, penetrating as far as the division of the [b]soul and spirit [the completeness of a person], and of both joints and marrow [the deepest parts of our nature], exposing and judging the very thoughts and intentions of the heart."

9.Worship – your mind loves music . Is inspired by songs . Have you ever wondered , why Elisha called for the minstrel before he gave them the answer to the problem ? When your spirit is lifted , you are then able to respond positively to the challenge at hand .2 Kings 3:15,16" But now bring me a minstrel. And it came to pass, when the minstrel played, that the hand of the Lord came upon him. 16 And he said, Thus saith the Lord, Make this valley full of ditches."

10.Confession – In God's Kingdom we don't keep silent when the enemy attacks our mind , we speak and hold fast to what God has said . Heb 10:23 (Amp)" Let us seize and hold tightly the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is reliable and trustworthy and faithful [to His word];"

Personal quote :

" Your mind will always respond to whatever it perceives as true " 

Prayer : In the name of Jesus , I shield my mind from every fiery darts of the wicked  in Jesus name.Amen.

God bless you .Have a great month!

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Trust Him For A Miracle

God also bearing them witness, both with signs and
wonders, and with divers miracles, and gifts of the
Holy Ghost, according to his own will?
(Hebrews 2:4).

The New Testament gives numerous accounts
of the miracles Jesus did during His earthly
ministry. John 2:23 tells us that many believed in Him
when they saw the miracles He did. But there were
also many in His day who didn’t believe in Him despite
the miracles. It’s the same thing today; there’re some
who say that miracles don’t exist; but their’s is a twisted
opinion. Some of us have lived in and experienced, the
miraculous; we see, breathe, and experience miracles
all the time.
The very idea of the existence of a God is to believe
in the supernatural. If you don’t believe in miracles,
then you don’t believe in God! A miracle is God’s
supernatural intervention in the affairs of men. God is
a Spirit, and He lives in the realm of the spirit. When
you pray to Him, a God that you can’t see with your
physical eyes, and He answers you from that realm of
life, that’s a miracle. His answer to your prayers is His
response, and that’s what changes things.
God doesn’t need to respond if you don’t need
a miracle. You wouldn’t need Him to do for you what  
you can, and should do for yourself. For example, He
doesn’t help you put on your clothes or shoes, or put
food in your mouth; you can do all that by yourself and
for yourself. If you’re thirsty for water, He doesn’t give
you a drink. But if you don’t have access to the water,
you can act your faith and He’ll grant you a miracle.
When you need a miracle, it means you need
something that only God can do; the moment you act
on the Word, He responds! He never fails to show up,
as He always responds to faith. You can trust Him for
a miracle for your health, finances, academics, job or
business, and for your family.
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and
forever (Hebrews 13:8). If you accept and act on
His Word as others did in Bible days, you’ll get the
same results. This is what many are doing today, and
experiencing His miracles. 
Prayer
Dear heavenly Father, I thank
you for your presence in my life,
and your glory that fills my heart!
Thank you for your mercies and
blessings that I experience today
and always. I celebrate your
grace in my life, and the power
to live the transcendent life, in
Jesus’ Name. Amen. 

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There’s only one God — and it’s not you!

The Idolatry of Control
There’s only one God — and it’s not you!

Written by Dan Lee on 27/09/2016
Series: Weekly Devotional
Tags: God, Control, Sovereignty
We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.

Proverbs 16:9
We might not think of Control as an idol. Yet anything that we come to value more than God, is an idol. And as humans, we love to feel like we are in control of our own life, our destiny.

We believe we have control over our health, our job, our finances, and our relationships. However, that’s not the case. There is only one Sovereign, one Master of the Universe, and it is God, not us.

Here are just three important things that we cannot control ourselves, but God does:

1. How long we will live
We can take care of our bodies with proper diet and exercise. We’re told that this will allow us a long, healthy and full life.

But how long will we really live? That’s up to God. There are no guarantees no matter how hard we try.

Psalm 139:16 puts it plainly: “You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”

An accident or attack can end our life at any moment regardless of how careful and healthy we are.

Because of this, we can’t trust ourselves with our lives. Rather, we must put our trust in God, for He has each moment planned.

2. Our Success
There are countless articles here on the internet that explain how to gain success from business, schooling, and changing your mindset. But, does that mean that success is guaranteed if only we just work hard? Not necessarily.

“Look here, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit.’ How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone.” James 4:13-14

Just think… sometimes a business opportunity promises success. Though you might make a lot of money, you could also lose all of it. Or as this verse says, you might not even be alive tomorrow! (Also see Luke 12:16-21.)

3. Other People’s Decisions
Just as we believe we can control our own success, we believe we can control other people’s decisions and opinions. But, can we really?

“As for my companion, he betrayed his friends; he broke his promises” (Psalm 55:20).

Even if we are loving and kind, those closest to us can disappoint or even betray us. Marriages, can result in infidelity, friends can break promise, and children often go astray, even when we parent them the best we know how. Other people are simply not under our control.

So, what does this all mean? Should we stop trying to care for our bodies, stop trying to make plans, or to stop building good relationships? No, the Bible tells us that these are all important (1 Corinthians 6:19; Luke 14:29).

It does mean that we seek God’s will above our own, and remember every day that His plans are the ones that will never fail! The more we submit to His will and His plans, the more we will experience His peace and joy — even when things don’t turn out the way we planned.

Pray this week:

Lord, forgive me for thinking I am in control of my destiny. Thank You that my life is in your entirely capable hands. Help me seek first Your Kingdom (Matthew 6:33) and trust you with my life.

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